Share a Wish

Love and grat­i­tude per­me­ate the air this hol­i­day sea­son. It is the one time a year, we col­lec­tively look around and appre­ci­ate those in our lives. We cel­e­brate and remind each other of what makes life truly valu­able (I’m not talk­ing about presents  ;). There is no bet­ter time to give thanks for our life and look for­ward to new begin­nings as we start another year.

In our fam­ily we cel­e­brate sev­eral tra­di­tions.  Today we cel­e­brate Sol­stice which is the change between autumn and win­ter.  It is the dark­est day of the year.  The cel­e­bra­tion is to wel­come back the return of the light.  We share our hopes for the com­ing year and cel­e­brate with a cer­e­mony, a time of giv­ing and a feast.

We also cel­e­brate Christ­mas and Santa.  But today is Sol­stice so I want to share my Sol­stice tra­di­tion of shar­ing a wish.  Wishes are like free magic.  Any­one can send out a wish for another per­son and wishes are always made from love.  Best of all, the giver and receiver share some­thing money can’t buy.

So reader, I would like to how grate­ful I am for your arrival here.  How­ever you arrived, I appre­ci­ate any­one who takes a moment to read. I hope you found some­thing to spark your inter­est or see some­thing new to take with you.

My wish for you on this Sol­stice evening is for you to go into the New Year and find light and hope around every cor­ner.  I wish you peace, love and pros­per­ity on your path to ful­fill­ing your dreams.  May you and those you love find infi­nite rea­sons to smile every day.

Have a won­der­ful Win­ter Sol­stice and a Happy New Year!

Peace, Theresa

Ten Rules For Being Human

I was stum­bling around online the other night and came across this.  It felt true so I thought I would share it.  (By the way, if you enjoy ran­dom inter­est­ing infor­ma­tion you should use Stum­ble­upon.  You find the coolest things.)

Cherie Carter-Scott ref­er­ences the fol­low­ing quote as the basis for her rules for being human: “Life is a suc­ces­sion of lessons which must be lived to be under­stood.” (Helen Keller)

Ten Rules for Being Human

by Cherie Carter-Scott

  1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.
  2. You will learn lessons.  You are enrolled in a full-time infor­mal school called, “life”.
  3. There are no mis­takes, only lessons.  Growth is a process of trial, error, and exper­i­men­ta­tion.  The “failed” exper­i­ments are as much a part of the process as the exper­i­ments that ulti­mately “work”.
  4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned.  A les­son will be pre­sented to you in var­i­ous forms until you have learned it.  When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
  5. Learn­ing lessons does not end.  There’s no part of life that doesn’t con­tain its lessons.  If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
  6. There” is no bet­ter a place than “here”.  When your “there” has become a “here”, you will sim­ply obtain another “there” that will again look bet­ter than “here”.
  7. Other peo­ple are merely mir­rors of you.  You can­not love or hate some­thing about another per­son unless it reflects to you some­thing you love or hate about yourself.
  8. What you make of your life is up to you.  You have all the tools and resources you need.  What you do with them is up to you.  The choice is yours.
  9. Your answers lie within you.  The answers to life’s ques­tions lie within you.  All you need to do is look, lis­ten, and trust.
  10. You will for­get all this.

Our deepest fear…

Our deep­est fear is not that we are inad­e­quate. Our deep­est fear is that we are pow­er­ful beyond mea­sure. It is our light, not our dark­ness that most fright­ens us. We ask our­selves, who am I to be bril­liant, gor­geous, tal­ented and fab­u­lous? Actu­ally, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your play­ing small doesn’t serve the world. There is noth­ing enlight­ened about shrink­ing so that other peo­ple won’t feel inse­cure around you. We were born to make man­i­fest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us: it’s in every­one. And when we let our own light shine, we uncon­sciously give other peo­ple per­mis­sion to do the same. As we are lib­er­ated from our own fear, our pres­ence auto­mat­i­cally lib­er­ates oth­ers.”
~ Mar­i­anne Williamson

The first time I read this, I was not sure I believed it.  Why would being great scare any­one?  Fear comes up when we believe we are lack­ing power. Being great is about hav­ing power and influence.

The more I learn about human nature and how we engage our­selves in the world, I am see­ing the valid­ity in this quote.  We iden­tify our fear as what might hap­pen if we fail.  It is what our mind focuses on.  What it doesn’t look at is the under­ly­ing source of that fear.  We can only be afraid of fail­ure if we actu­ally believe that great­ness is our true call­ing. It is only the lim­its we place on our own great­ness that keep us from real­iz­ing the poten­tial within ourselves.

Your play­ing small doesn’t serve the world.  This line res­onates with me. We all have a tal­ent within us that needs expres­sion for our truth to spread out into the world. Keep­ing it to our­selves deprives the world of our inher­ent genius. I tell my kids at every oppor­tu­nity they can be, do or have any­thing they desire. We talk about pow­ers and tal­ents and how impor­tant it is to prac­tice them. I give them my unwa­ver­ing sup­port in cre­at­ing an amaz­ing life with unlim­ited pos­si­bil­i­ties. I hope this quote is never a topic for them to pon­der.  My job is to make sure they know their great­ness and send them off into the world to do amaz­ing things.

My tal­ent is coach­ing.  In col­lege I dis­cov­ered my skills for talk­ing with peo­ple and help­ing them. I came to real­ize when I sit with some­one who wants my help, I can con­nect with them to pro­vide the insight they need at that time and space to move them for­ward. It is my gift. Other than my nat­ural inter­est and desire to learn more about peo­ple, I have never tried to develop it or make it some­thing else.  I just know it is within me and part of who I am.

When I read this quote the voice in my mind pulls this line out every time.  My play­ing small doesn’t serve the world.  “Who am I to believe I can change the world?” is replaced with, “You have been given a gift to serve the higher pur­pose of help­ing oth­ers to real­ize their dreams. Who are you to keep it to your­self?” Every­day I won­der if I am up to the task of this jour­ney I am on.  Inevitably I get some mes­sage that tells me to con­tinue.  I didn’t come to this path by acci­dent.  I didn’t start a blog with a com­pletely dif­fer­ent inten­tion to end up back in health coach­ing where I started.  I was brought here because there is a higher force guid­ing me to my calling.

Work­ing with clients I see this lim­i­ta­tion all too clearly.  Often peo­ple seek me out look­ing for help with weight loss.  It doesn’t take them long to fig­ure out it isn’t about the food they eat.  My most suc­cess­ful clients are the ones who real­ize they are play­ing it small.  They see how they deprive them­selves of food, love and self-care because they aren’t allow­ing their great­ness to shine.  Once they tap into what makes them truly happy, there is an almost imme­di­ate shift in their well-being.  They begin to see them­selves as the beau­ti­ful, bright beings they are and flour­ish in their newly dis­cov­ered wellness.

What are your gifts? Are you shar­ing them with the world?

I love me

Gratitude for another day…

This week­end my girl/boy twins turned 4 years old.  Birth­days are gen­er­ally for the peo­ple who were born but as a mother it is a cel­e­bra­tion as well.  We sur­vived the early years of long, tir­ing days and sleep­less nights.  Nurs­ing until past their 2nd birth­day and the gen­eral ter­ror of two beings able to per­form fatal acts.  This week­end I cel­e­brated the hard work of moth­er­ing and treated myself to reflect­ing on all our accom­plish­ments and strug­gles over the years.  We have all come so far in the past 4 years.  I encour­age all moms to cel­e­brate their role in the birth of their chil­dren.  Whether bio­log­i­cal or adopted moth­ers play a key role in a child’s liv­ing in this life.  Moms deserve a lit­tle recog­ni­tion for the hard work that they do.

The 4’s have also brought a new stage of devel­op­ment for the kids, Oppo­si­tion. You know that stage. The one where every time you say some­thing, they do the exact oppo­site.  My sweet, lov­ing, coop­er­a­tive daugh­ter has turned into Lit­tle Miss NO.   I love that she is find­ing her inde­pen­dence and learn­ing to speak up for her­self. I wish she could do it a bit less defi­antly. Either way I love them both and look for­ward to the new changes in the year to come.

GratitudeToday I am grate­ful for…

  • Another year to watch my chil­dren grow and develop.
  • Cel­e­brat­ing our lives together and the joy of par­tic­i­pat­ing in a family.
  • Being able to have and raise healthy chil­dren I believe will one day make the world a bet­ter place.
  • Liv­ing con­sciously and learn­ing to com­mu­ni­cate openly with compassion.
  • Love.

What are  you grate­ful for today?