Making Motivation Meaningful

One of the things I often hear from peo­ple, friends and clients alike, is they need more moti­va­tion to be healthy.  By the time peo­ple come to me for sup­port on being healthy, they have tried many dif­fer­ent things.  They are moti­vated to make a change but don’t know where to start.  Or worse they try to do every­thing at once, become over­whelmed and quit.  So how do we moti­vate our­selves to make changes with­out becom­ing over­whelmed or stuck.

What is motivation?

Let’s start with under­stand­ing what moti­va­tion is:

Psy­chol­ogy Today defines moti­va­tion as

Moti­va­tion is lit­er­ally the desire to do things. It’s the dif­fer­ence between wak­ing up before dawn to pound the pave­ment and laz­ing around the house all day. It’s the cru­cial ele­ment in set­ting and attain­ing goals—and research shows you can influ­ence your own lev­els of moti­va­tion and self-control. So fig­ure out what you want, power through the pain period, and start being who you want to be.

The ques­tion is where does moti­va­tion come from?  What is the incen­tive that encour­ages peo­ple to make a change in their life?

Moti­va­tion begins with a desire to change but there is a cru­cial com­po­nent nec­es­sary to keep that moti­va­tion focused. We need the moti­va­tion to have meaning.

While it is easy to say “I want to lose weight.” There isn’t a whole lot of mean­ing behind that.  Why do we want to lose weight?  What do you gain from the weight loss?

To really moti­vate your­self to make a change, try putting a mean­ing­ful goal behind it.  For exam­ple, when I find myself need­ing to bal­ance my weight, I focus on how good I feel and how it is expressed in my energy.

My focus becomes “I am moti­vated to make healthy choices to feel bet­ter and have energy to keep up with my kids with­out want­ing to take a nap in the mid­dle of the day.”

This focus allows me to mea­sure my suc­cess and keep the mean­ing in my moti­va­tion.  My kids are the moti­va­tion to have energy because their energy feels lim­it­less to me.  Then, when I make choices I ask myself, “Will this give me more energy or make me feel drained?” There is focus, incen­tive and moti­va­tion all rolled into one.

What is your moti­va­tion for being healthy and how can you make it more meaningful?

Ten Rules For Being Human

I was stum­bling around online the other night and came across this.  It felt true so I thought I would share it.  (By the way, if you enjoy ran­dom inter­est­ing infor­ma­tion you should use Stum­ble­upon.  You find the coolest things.)

Cherie Carter-Scott ref­er­ences the fol­low­ing quote as the basis for her rules for being human: “Life is a suc­ces­sion of lessons which must be lived to be under­stood.” (Helen Keller)

Ten Rules for Being Human

by Cherie Carter-Scott

  1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.
  2. You will learn lessons.  You are enrolled in a full-time infor­mal school called, “life”.
  3. There are no mis­takes, only lessons.  Growth is a process of trial, error, and exper­i­men­ta­tion.  The “failed” exper­i­ments are as much a part of the process as the exper­i­ments that ulti­mately “work”.
  4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned.  A les­son will be pre­sented to you in var­i­ous forms until you have learned it.  When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
  5. Learn­ing lessons does not end.  There’s no part of life that doesn’t con­tain its lessons.  If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
  6. There” is no bet­ter a place than “here”.  When your “there” has become a “here”, you will sim­ply obtain another “there” that will again look bet­ter than “here”.
  7. Other peo­ple are merely mir­rors of you.  You can­not love or hate some­thing about another per­son unless it reflects to you some­thing you love or hate about yourself.
  8. What you make of your life is up to you.  You have all the tools and resources you need.  What you do with them is up to you.  The choice is yours.
  9. Your answers lie within you.  The answers to life’s ques­tions lie within you.  All you need to do is look, lis­ten, and trust.
  10. You will for­get all this.

Gratitude improves every day

Silver lining
Find the sil­ver lining

Grat­i­tude has become a cor­ner­stone of my days. I don’t get to this post every week (though I think it would ben­e­fit me greatly if I did), but I have daily reminders of how blessed my life is.

Today I am grateful…

  • For hav­ing the resources to improve my life.  I am smart, learn quickly and have a pas­sion for help­ing other peo­ple.  It’s pay­ing off.
  • I am grate­ful for the con­stant improve­ments in tech­nol­ogy that make work­ing from home with my kids possible.
  • Tech­nol­ogy has allowed me to make some won­der­ful friends.  We have never met but they help be get through every day and take my blog­ging to the next level.
  • My chil­dren are healthy and grow­ing.  They are strong kids, with quick minds who love to learn and explore their world.
  • I have love in my life.  I meet every per­son with a sense of lov­ing them as they are and hop­ing our inter­ac­tion leaves them with a smile on their face and a spring in their step.
  • I love my home.  It may not be the clean­est home, the neat­est home or the most fash­ion­able home.  But it is ours, and we have enough space to wel­come guests to come visit and connect.

Grat­i­tude keeps me get­ting up in the morn­ing and helps me to find the sil­ver lin­ing in any sit­u­a­tion.  What is your sil­ver lin­ing for today?

So much gratitude today…

Our fam­ily had such a won­der­ful break through this week it’s hard to know where to begin with my grat­i­tude for today.  I am grateful…

  • We were able to improve our family’s cir­cum­stances by real­iz­ing how blessed we have been in our lives.
  • The power of believ­ing the solu­tion to a daunt­ing prob­lem will come does work.  Ask for what you need, believe it will come and find things to be grate­ful for.  Worked for us.
  • My son took a rare nap yes­ter­day.  It afforded me the chance to cook with my daugh­ter and really con­nect with her.  (Cook­ing with 3 year old twins takes a spe­cial kind of patience).  I can han­dle one at a time though.
  • I don’t have to get a J.O.B. (Just Over Broke)
  • I get to keep blog­ging and doing what I love and still sup­port my family.
  • My kids are excited to start preschool and I will get a much needed respite from the daily strug­gles for inde­pen­dence.  My daugh­ter gets her speech ther­apy, my son gets to make new friends and I get some breath­ing room.  It’s a win-win-win.  My favorite kind.
  • I have the oppor­tu­nity to go to the Nat­ural Prod­ucts Expo East 2011 for the first time this year.  I have wanted to attend this expo for years and I finally get to go.

Yes­ter­day was one of the best days of my life and it only gets bet­ter from here.