Ten Rules For Being Human

I was stum­bling around online the other night and came across this.  It felt true so I thought I would share it.  (By the way, if you enjoy ran­dom inter­est­ing infor­ma­tion you should use Stum­ble­upon.  You find the coolest things.)

Cherie Carter-Scott ref­er­ences the fol­low­ing quote as the basis for her rules for being human: “Life is a suc­ces­sion of lessons which must be lived to be under­stood.” (Helen Keller)

Ten Rules for Being Human

by Cherie Carter-Scott

  1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.
  2. You will learn lessons.  You are enrolled in a full-time infor­mal school called, “life”.
  3. There are no mis­takes, only lessons.  Growth is a process of trial, error, and exper­i­men­ta­tion.  The “failed” exper­i­ments are as much a part of the process as the exper­i­ments that ulti­mately “work”.
  4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned.  A les­son will be pre­sented to you in var­i­ous forms until you have learned it.  When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
  5. Learn­ing lessons does not end.  There’s no part of life that doesn’t con­tain its lessons.  If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
  6. There” is no bet­ter a place than “here”.  When your “there” has become a “here”, you will sim­ply obtain another “there” that will again look bet­ter than “here”.
  7. Other peo­ple are merely mir­rors of you.  You can­not love or hate some­thing about another per­son unless it reflects to you some­thing you love or hate about yourself.
  8. What you make of your life is up to you.  You have all the tools and resources you need.  What you do with them is up to you.  The choice is yours.
  9. Your answers lie within you.  The answers to life’s ques­tions lie within you.  All you need to do is look, lis­ten, and trust.
  10. You will for­get all this.

The Secret of #Success

A lot can be said for stand­ing back to observe how peo­ple talk about their life and goals.  I was recently vis­it­ing a new forum for peo­ple want­ing sup­port around get­ting healthy.  The forum was bro­ken out into dif­fer­ent forums for los­ing weight or train­ing for an event.  I started in the train­ing forum to see what was happening.

The train­ing forum was full of cel­e­bra­tions. Mem­bers cheer­ing each other on. Very high energy and excit­ing. I felt my spirit lift and I started dream­ing about run­ning. The body feels so strong after a good workout.

In the forum for los­ing weight, the mood was somber. The posts rid­dled with com­ments like, “strug­gling”, “my goal is to…,” “I have to…”.  All of the state­ments were exter­nally focused and laced with the feel­ing of dis­cour­age­ment.  The frus­tra­tion and lost hope made some of the posts too hard to read.

I was struck by the dif­fer­ence in atmos­phere between the forums. Peo­ple in the train­ing event were talk­ing about get­ting out for a good sweat and work­ing with a team, feel­ing inspired and moti­vated to excel. In the weight loss forum it was all about the strug­gling with neg­a­tive self-talk and try­ing to set and keep goals.

After read­ing the forum posts I knew I had to get to the gym. I really love to run. I got hooked on it about 10 years ago. A car acci­dent took me out for a few years. Add preg­nancy and post-partum depres­sion and it’s been a while since I put on my run­ning shoes. Over the sum­mer the kids and I would make reg­u­lar stops at the YMCA. The kids could play in child­watch and have fun and I would run on the tread­mill. It took me all sum­mer but I got up to run­ning straight out for 20 min­utes. It feels great.

Some­times when I run I imag­ine the tread­mill in front of me is the fin­ish line of a com­pet­i­tive run.  I see myself reach­ing my goal and imag­ine what it will feel like when I get there.  When I was play­ing this game with myself recently, it occurred to me how great it feels to be chal­lenged. To set out to do some­thing new and just work­ing at it until you get there. Know­ing what­ever hap­pens will take us closer to what we want. Even if there is a fail­ure it doesn’t mean there won’t be more oppor­tu­ni­ties to get better.

Our Spirit loves to be chal­lenged. We thrive when we are push­ing for­ward, learn­ing some­thing new, see­ing how far our body can go. Suc­cess­ful peo­ple are always com­ing up with some­thing new, try­ing another inter­est. That’s why we check to see what this celebrity has done or fol­low the twit­ter account of an expert we admire. They are con­stantly rein­vent­ing them­selves and being an inspi­ra­tion.  Michael Jor­dan is a per­fect exam­ple.  After he retired from bas­ket­ball he took to the minor leagues of base­ball to see if he could make it there.  He wasn’t done even after he had reached the peak of the pro­fes­sion that brought him for­tune and fame.

Suc­cess­ful peo­ple know the secret. Push­ing your­self to do more than you have done before. Look­ing past this com­fort­able seat on the couch of life. Going after the life you dream about.

I may not be at the top of my game yet but I will keep on striv­ing. I’m going to keep run­ning until I get to that first 5K. Then I am going to push myself every step until I cross the fin­ish line of a marathon. One race at a time.

How will you chal­lenge your­self today?